the 3 significant ppl

A friend once told me:
In your life there will be 3 significant persons;

The one who loves you most,
The one whom you love most,
And the one whom you will get married to..

Rarely, these 3 persons will be the same person..That's life..If you ever have 3 of them who are of the same person, treasure that rare precious destiny..

the not-so-unconditional love

Love and the whole merry-go-round somehow doesn't really makes sense.
In summary, unconditional love is love at its purest form, where your heart feels like its so full and its just ready to give everything in the world for one person.

A mother's love is one example..When a mother loves a child,its unconditional..Sure, parents are not perfect and once in awhile they expect something from you in exchange for their love (not so unconditional anymore)..So let's give it a new name..It's pure love then..Pure, real love.

I'm not saying other forms of love is not pure. But this is love at its purest form..Loving something or someone without much reasons and not expecting much in return..

Pure love is when you still love that person despite all their flaws and mistakes..
Pure love is when all you want to be is by their side..
Pure love is when you see the person and all you feel is warmth..Like a sip of hot chocolate on a cold rainy day..

Pure love is when you're by their side, the sun is always shining in your radiant smile, and the stars sparkle in your eyes with happiness..

Pure love is when the person walks off to venture on a different path, you hide your tears and despair because all you want to do is ensure they know they have your support..

Pure love is when you know there is a bond between you two that will last forever, a red string (like in the Chinese beliefs) that binds the both of you together..

my 23rd year on earth..

I'm officially 23..hmm..somehow i feel so much older than that..for awhile i really thought i was supposed to be 24 this yr..i don't know why i lost track of my own age..not that i've been in this world for that long rite..while being confused, my boyfie confused me further by convincing me that my age was 24 this yr..followed by a miscalculation leading me to believe that i'm 24 for a few hours til i started calculating with my fingers again and asking my family members of my age >.< overall i've had one of the best b'days..not much of celebrating..but rather, spending time with my guy before he goes back home for 3 weeks was how i wanted to spend my day..he made my day special..thanks a bunch honey =) lately i've not been a good friend since i was always busy and not keeping in touch much with my friends..i'm so sorry guys..i do feel terribly guilty over it..and so i expected a quiet b'day this yr but being spammed by all the b'day messages on msn, fb and my hp from the start of 12am til the end of my b'day at 11.58pm the next day was awfully touching..Just when i thought it was over, i've received 2 bouquet of roses the next morn..



a pretty mixed bouquet from Xander, John, Marcus and Maxine..






this was from Wai Kien and Hui Teng..



and then..later that day, i've received a courier package from Melbourne with another rose inside..it was a soap carved red rose from lux soap..Thanks alot Kevin..at least this is one rose that will never wilt ^o^













Aww..aren't they precious? i love them so much..thanks a bunch guys =D

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"If the people we love can no longer be with us..the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them."
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Just finished watching 5 Centimeters per Second by Makoto Shinkai..


For anime fans..please download..
For romance film suckers..please download..
For those who have been distanced..please download..

Because..

..It made me cry..

How many of us have lost precious moments due to distance?
How many of us have lost precious relationships due to circumstances?
Nothing really lasts forever..


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Theme Song for the animation was, "One more time, one more chance"
Written and Performed by: Masayoshi Yamazaki

==============================Lyrics==============================
How much more do I have to lose, before my heart is forgiven?
How many more pains do I have to suffer, to meet you once again?
One more time, oh seasons, fade not
One more time, when we were messing around
Whenever we disagreed, I would always give in first
Your selfish nature made me love you even more
One more chance, the memories restrain my steps
One more chance, I cannot choose my next destination
I'm always searching, for your figure to appear somewhere
On the opposite platform, in the windows along the lane
Even though I know you couldn't be at such a place
If my wish were to come true, I would be at your side right away
There would be nothing I couldn't do
I would put everything on the line and hold you tight
If I just wanted to avoid loneliness, anybody would have been enough.
Because the night looks like the stars will fall, I cannot lie to myself.
One more time, oh seasons, fade not.
One more time, when we were messing around
I'm always searching, for your figure to appear somewhere
At a street crossing, in the midst of dreams
Even though I know you couldn't be at such a place
If a miracle were to happen here, I would show you right away
The new morning, who I'll be from now on
And the words I never said: "I love you."
The memories of summer are revolving
The throbbing which suddenly disappeared
I'm always searching, for your figure to appear somewhere
At dawn on the streets, at Sakuragi-cho
Even though I know you couldn't be at such a place
If my wish were to come true, I would be at your side right away
There would be nothing I couldn't do
I would put everything on the line and hold you tight
I'm always searching, for fragments of you to appear somewhere
At a traveller's store, in the corner of newspaper,
Even though I know you couldn't be at such a place
If a miracle were to happen here, I would show you right away
The new morning, who I'll be from now on
And the words I never said: "I love you."
I always end up looking for your smile, to appear somewhere
At the railroad crossing, waiting for the express to pass
Even though I know you couldn't be at such a place
If our lives could be repeated, I would be at your side every time
I would want nothing else
Besides you, nothing else matters

if you love someone..

Read this from somewhere and i find it interesting..


THE ORIGINAL VERSION

If you love someone, Set him free...
If he comes back, he's yours,
If he doesn't, it was never meant to be....

THE NEW VERSIONS:

The Pessimist:
If you love someone, Set him free ...
If he ever comes back, he's yours,
If he doesn't, as expected, he never was.
Whatever gave you the idea that he would
anyway?

The Optimist:
If you love someone, Set him free ...
Don't worry, he'll come back.

The Suspicious:
If you love someone, Set him free ...
If he ever comes back, ask him why.

The Impatient:
If you love someone, Set him free ...
If he doesn't come back within a week
forget it.

The Statisticians :
If you love someone, Set him free,
If he loves you, the probability of him
coming back is high.
If he doesn't, your relation was
improbable anyway.

The Patient:
If you love someone, Set him free ...
If he doesn't come back put your life on
hold and sit and wait.

The Playful:
If you love someone, Set him free ...
If he comes back, and if you love him still,
set him free again, repeat*

The Human Ecologist:
If you love someone, Set him free,
In fact, all living creatures deserve to be free!!

Bill Gates:
If you love someone, Set him free,
If he comes back, I think we can charge
him for re-installation fees and
tell him that he's also going to get an upgrade.

The Biologist :
If you love someone, Set him free, He'll evolve.

The Schwarzenegger's fans:
If you love someone, Set him free,
HE'LL BE BACK!

The Overpossessive:
If you love someone,
don't set him free.

The FBI agent:
If you love someone, set him free.
Then put bug on his phone and
surveillance cameras in his house.

The Pathetic:
If you love someone, set him free.
Who wants to be stuck with a loser like
you anyway?

The Lawyer:
If you love someone, set him free.
Then sue him for emotional distress.

The Psycho:
If you love someone, set him free.
If he doesn't come back shoot him.

The Creepy Sociopath:
If you love someone, stalk him.

The C++ programmer:
IF
you love someone
THEN
set him free
END IT UNTIL he comes back

meaningful

1. Don’t go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile.

2. There are things you love to hear but you would never hear it from the person whom you would like to hear it from, but don’t be deaf to hear it from the person who says it with his heart.

3. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want
to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want in life.

4. May you have…Enough happiness to make you sweet..Enough trials to make you strong..Enough sorrow to keep you human..Enough hope to make you happy..And enough money to keep you comfortable.

5. When one door of happiness closes, another opens. But we often took so
long at the closed door, that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.

6. The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch, swing with, never saying a word and then walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you’ve had.

7. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but it’s
also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives.

8. Always put yourself in other’s shoes. If you feel that it hurts you,
it probably does hurt the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle a strife; A cruel word may wreck a life;
A timely word may level stress; A lovely word may heal and bless.

10. The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves
and not to twist them with our own image, otherwise we love only the
reflection of ourselves we find in them.

11. The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of
everything, they just make the most of everything that comes along the way.

12. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right
one so that when we finally meet the right person, we should know how to be
grateful for that gift.

13. It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone
and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

14. Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have
searched and those who have tried. For only they can appreciate the
importance of people who have touched their lives.

15. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, the romance and
find out you still care for that person.

16. A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone who means a lot
to you only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and you
just have to let go.

17. Love starts with a smile, develops with a kiss and ends with a tear.

18. Love comes to those who still hope even though they’ve been disappointed,
to those who still believe even though they’ve been betrayed, need to love
those who still love, even though they’ve been hurt before.

19. It hurts to love someone, and not to be loved in return but what is most
painful is to love someone and never finds the courage to let the person
know how you feel.

20. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You
can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

21. Never say goodbye when you still want to try; Never give up when you
still feel you can take it; Never say you don’t love that person anymore
when you can’t let go.

22. Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they’ll love
you back. Don’t expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their
hearts but if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours.

how do kids intepret love

i came across something that caught my attention awhile ago..apparently, a group of professional people (i dunno what sort of professionals were they referring to..) posted a question to a group of 4-8 yr olds.."what does love mean?"..and some of the answers obtained were broader and deeper than anyone could imagine based on their age..
(those highlighted in red are my personal favourites..)


"Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way."

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth."

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your french fries without making them give you any of theirs."

"Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at them because you know it would hurt their feelings."

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My mommy and daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss."

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate."

"Love is hugging. Love is kissing. Love is saying no."

"When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared they won't love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still love you, they love you even more."

"There are two kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them."

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."

"Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken."

"Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."

"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."

"I let my big sister pick on me because my mom says she only picks on me because she loves me. So I pick on my baby sister because I love her."

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you."

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

"God could have said magic words to make the nails fall off the cross, but He didn't. That's love."

falling in love

"It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and it is a mystery why some love fails.”

Yes, that is so true.. Just think back of the times when you fell in love..all the throughts running thru your head..and your heart skipping a beat every time he smiles at you..or the mushy feeling whenever he stares into your eyes..The feeling of love that makes your heart feel like its going to burst..walking around in a daze..smiling to yourself..The list goes on and on but what matters is that most of us has experience it before.. A sweet happy feeling that makes life better each day..

Remember this and keep it to your heart.

"Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you."

The easiest thing I ever done was fall in love with him..Finding the right person is not really a matter of finding..It is more of a surprise than a search because if you are looking for the "one" you may find more disapointment than love..So the lesson learnt would be to enjoy the ride and don't let your goal of being loved influence you to fall for the wrong pair of arms..Be patient and have fun..When its the right person you will know..Life is short and love is precious..Don't fall for anyone that will make you anything less than happy..Love someone that will improve your life..Always remember that love is kind and patient..even if it means waiting til the right moment appears..

love and pride

as usual, i was just surfing around the net and looking up meaningful poetry, life stories (fiction or based on real experiences) and opinions on certain topics..and today i managed to find something that i couldnt help but agree with every single word i read..therefore, it was a meaningful piece for me..this article that was published few weeks ago in star newspaper and yes i know..this shows that i don't read the papers as much as i shud be..i can't cite the author since the site did not reference it >.<..

SIGHTS & SOUNDS

OVER the past year, I have learned a thing or two about love. I find the power of love fascinating and contradictory at the same time. Besides being able to turn a perfectly normal person into a giddy, beaming creature; love also has the power to unhinge the most rational of us. If you’ve ever been in love, you might agree that love can make us a little insane at times. An intelligent, successful person would cry, beg and flood their partner’s mailbox with a dozen incoherent messages, all because of love. In the face of love, any pride that we might have gets flushed down the drain.

There also are instances where the opposite is true.

I find that love and pride are so closely intertwined that the mere movement towards one or the other can change the outcome of a disagreement between couples.

Anger and pride are also never far from each other. It is anger that spurs us to make the most hurtful remarks and it is pride that stills our tongue when we want to say we’re sorry. Anger makes us forget ourselves and gives us a temporary sense of power. We say things we don’t mean and when we want to run after the one we love, it is our pride that keeps us rooted to the ground.

No one is perfect and it is our battle with pride and anger that makes up human love. We either allow anger and pride to take over or we can try very hard to let love do the talking. After all, pride, anger and regret will not keep us warm at night.

Love is also a very strange notion. We can promise our partner the earth and the sky, whisk them away on luxurious holidays and feel happier when we hear their voice on the telephone; yet we can be rude to them, careless with their feelings and take them for granted.

You wouldn’t put as much effort into a friendship and you also wouldn’t abuse it; yet when it comes to relationships, you could be operating on both ends of the scale at the same time. It doesn’t take one long to figure out that we are at our most vulnerable when we are in love. Even the strongest and meanest have been known to be defeated by it.

Love may have the power to heal, but it also certainly has the power to break someone and turn them into a shadow of their former self. I have found that showing our love is not just giving what comes naturally to us when we are happy. It is always easy to love someone when we’re in a good mood but when things aren’t so peachy it can be such a struggle to remember how to show that love.

Although I am a naturally affectionate person, I find myself behaving more like Mr Hyde than Dr Jekyll when angry or upset; ashamed as I am to admit. “Never make a decision when you’re angry” is a motto that I’m glad my boyfriend practices and has constantly reminded me to stand by.

Falling in love is easy but no one seems to advertise the fact that it isn’t as simple to sustain that wondrous feeling. The thing is, we can have the best education from the most prestigious university, but when it comes to the matters of the heart, we have no way of preparing for it. There is no other way to understand love than to learn about it the hard way and hope that our heart, and the hearts of those who love us, survives the ride.

I don’t find Valentine’s Day overrated as I see it as an anniversary of love.

After an entire year of learning about love and being a better person because of it, wouldn’t you want to celebrate too?